sub or stupid...?

Why is it that subs in particular say they are responsible.. but refuse to take responsibility for themselves?

i knew of a sub who was "talked" into being used at a play party, she was to be publicly flogged and agreed to this after some pushing and shoving from some sub friends. She had not had any previous experience and so didn't have any idea of her limits even. She was bound and flogged and admitted afterwards that altho she was screaming inside...never said a word out of fear of looking stupid. Why are they so afraid to use safeword? Why do they put themselves into these situations in the name of D/s ?
i cannot believe that those who play with unknowns can either trust or be trusted, to not overstep limits because they don't know those limits.

This leads me on to the subject of monogamy or lack of it within D/s and the state of more is better than less. Personally i like to see subs who haven't been through the mill...says a lot more about them in my estimation, it says they have standards. Its must be demeaning to ones self to submit to anyone.. and then have it end because they really found out that person was not who/what they said they were, its bad enough online... one would think real life would be taken a little more seriously but alas no... for some its the same

i think that the subs that go through Doms as fast as they change their knickers do nothing but harm to this lifestyle...apart from the bit about safe sex etc...the thought that this or that sub has slept with/had sex with 20 different blokes in as many months, outside of D/s she would be called a tart or a slapper or some such name so why is it so acceptable within D/s

"Hey, i have a new Master. That's number 5 this year, but it didn't work out" and it seems to be ok and even...."oh..you were with Dom X, what is he like"..as if the fact that he had a previous sub is good, and i never except the excuse that after a month or so they grew apart, i thought the basis was growing together.

In nilla circles if a girl sleeps around she is outcast or named, its not to her credit, but in D/s, it seems as if its a must somehow, maybe one day she will find out, look deep and re evaluate herself, lets hope its not too late and god forbid she catches something from one of these Doms because talk about totally unsafe sex, the Dom that has been with 10 different females, she with 10 different males, hey..What's the problem....not...!!

What also concerns me are play parties where you find subs playing with some bloke they met not an hour earlier, don't know him from Adam and they think nothing of letting this man shove his hand in the most private of places, no idea if he is clean, had a wash, has touched another, the mind boggles, such stupidity !!
i seriously hope that these people get themselves regularly tested for STD's cause 7 years is the incubation period for something like AID's that's a long time to wait and have it come back to haunt you. If these females are not strong enough to say "sod off" when something as obviously dangerous and out of all sensibility is put before then then it is their fault what befalls them but to do it under the banner of D/s or to prove to whoever that they are "sub" just baffles me totally.

Then you have the sub who is totally besotted with a Dom she has met 3 weeks before, is prepared to give up all she has, move thousands of miles away from home and family and then wonders why 2 months later he dumps her, leaving her high and dry in some place she is a stranger too, with no means of finding her way back, having found out that they are totally incompatible. Stupid you would say, what possessed her, what was she thinking... don't ask me because this baffles me more than anything else we see done under the guise of BDSM.
The sheer stupidity of some peoples actions is beyond belief or comprehension sometimes but woo betide anyone who tries to tell these people that they are heading for a disaster, but still we continue to try and suggest people stand back and take a serious look at just exactly they are letting themselves in for in the name of Dominance or submission