Bills, the flu, dishes, and laundry.

Life comes with bills, the flu, dishes, and laundry, getting the car serviced, taking the rubbish out, going to work and so much more. Plus then add in kids and then you have even less time. And everything keeps going no matter if you are in a D/s relationship or not. It means there is no 24/7 bondage, S/M, D/s. M/s and sex. It means living life the best we can and trying to add in things to keep that focus of the power exchange. It is keeping it real within reality.

I think people think that when you are in a D/s or Master/slave relationship it is all about sex and S&M. But as you know we live in the real world and we make our lives fit within reality of the world or it will makes us fit in it. The only thing that is needed for a Master/slave relationship is the power exchange. In our relationship He controls and I serve and obey. And that is all that is needed.
Many people might look at our lifestyle and just see the toilet overflowing, the stack of dishes, the laundry heaping up. They think we are not doing "D/s" because of all that "vanilla stuff" that must first take preference if we as a normal couple are to survive in this world.
Instead of looking at it that way, look at the foundation…the power exchange and see that the M/s relationship is still there even behind the vanilla life we have to lead and that the D/s can still be there without it always being the main focus.
If the Dominant still has the control and has the power in your relationship? If the submissive still has the desire to submit or feel the control of the Master does it matter if it is called by a name or is it really about how the couple live their lives and how they know in their hearts and minds, who they are. Proving to the outside world has never interested me or my Master. We know who we are, we dont have to prove it to anyone by any action.

Submissives have the desire to serve and please even in vanilla situations. If you defer to your Dominant in vanilla settings as well as private, if you obey and serve as a matter of course within your daily life, the M/s relationship is always there, maybe in the background, but none the less, still there. If you have protocols and rituals then you have those always too - no matter if in a D/s setting or non-D/s setting. As long as those are adhered too and not allowed to slip, the M/s remains in tact whatever the situation may be.

Those things don't go away just because we are in a vanilla setting. They are a part of our power exchange so in essence a part of who we are always. They are there all the time even if not overtly dominating or overtly submitting.

The goal should be to incorporate Master's Dominance and my submission seamlessly into our life. It should be intertwined so that just about anything we do together could be construed as D/s.

But as to proving it to anyone..Why should we, we know who we are... Master and slave.