End justifies the means.

We have always tried to justify what it is we do and why we do it; it is very much a part of the way we have decided to live our lives within the realms of our M/s relationship. However, we have found recently that sometimes, trying to justify the reasoning behind some of these things isn’t always the right way and that it may, if we are not careful give us a reason not to take part in certain, well tried and tested activities of a BDSM nature. This attitude of always having to have a good reason may have meant that we have missed out on some of the better philosophies regarding the interaction between a Master and slave.
The idea that the end justifies the means could be the very best reason for attempting to partake of some of the more ritualistic approaches that we have often read and heard about from other exponents of the lifestyle and maybe, in our growth we have finally reached a level where we are prepared to accept these approaches ourselves.
As long as the activity works for both of us and pleases or fulfils a need, or satisfies some aspect of our respective roles within our relationship, that ”does it” for us, I cannot see any reason why we shouldn’t try.
Having said that, it is almost beyond what words can describe, this attitude shift that we are both experiencing these last few weeks. Our once staunch stand on some very basic procedures has change dramatically, where once we would have said a resounding “No” if nothing else we have begun to look at the possibilities or gone even further and have begun to incorporate some of the more hard line attributes into our own M/s lives.
We are both of the same minds that we have reached this place in time, without the outside pressures that some M/s couples feel; to “comply” with the normal standards laid down, we have taken a long time to reach this point in our lives and as we add more and more to our roles within this relationship, we grow… both of us, deeper into the Master/slave relationship that we mutually crave.
How do I feel about it all… fulfilled, relaxed, keyed up, excited with the new moves we are making.. Relieved that some things that I have so long dreamed of are beginning to be used and that with each comes a sense of wonderment and joy..
I have always wanted my role of slave to be far deeper than it has been so far, although I know that Master has needed this time to get his mind and heart around some of the actions that may be required of him to complete some of the activities we are coming to find fit so well into our lives but because we have waited until we are both happy to expand our M & s, rather than rushing in and making big mistakes as we were not ready, the time it has taken to find this place has been quite long… That isn’t a big problem for us now, although if we had made this move earlier, we would have not been ready, we would have forced an issue that was not right for us at that time, or tried to fit the mould that is the expected norm between a Master and his slave, probably to our detriment.
The time is right now.. We know it, everything we are doing fits so well, is so natural that there is no reason why any of the additions to our M/s way of live should fail as long as we put into it enough to maintain the balance. We have tried new activities before, when the time wasn’t right and have failed miserably or have lost our way because what we were attempting wasn’t the right thing for us at that time and we would allow it to slip away unused or unseen… only when it fits, only when it is a natural extension will it sit quite happily within our already established way of life.
Neither of us do things for our own gratification alone, this is a joint venture, we talk, discuss, debate, ever aspect of our M & s so that we are both fully comfortable with how it is progressing, if we are not we do not incorporate anything until we both are totally happy with the move and that talk, that discussion has bought us to this place in time when we are moving deeper into the Power exchange that I have so long searched for. Master is ready for that now, so is his slave and together we travel down our road, fulfilling our needs, at our pace.
It lifts me up, enlightens my thoughts, brings me so much pleasure to be able to be more in tune with my inner self, the slave within me, I cannot do that without first making sure that it also sits well with my Master, he is as important within this relationship as I am, I may want or need something deeper and I have no doubt he would try to give me that if he could, without being totally into it himself, but that isn’t the way we do things, we are two who have, over time, become one and both have to be happy and comfortable with the knowledge and experience we gain as we move along our chosen course, if one is not happy, it will reflect on the other and will just not work if it is forced.
Three very happy years we have taken, to get here, and though it has taken that length of time to find the depth of exchange we now have, we have always been happy with the levels as we moved through them, now it is time for us to grow deeper into our Master/slave relationship.