Old Friends

There are one or two people in the lifestyle that i can call friends...( a few i could call something else, but thats another story) real friends.... that i have met via the internet and the friendship has grown and become established and we get to meet up every now and then for a coffee and a chat, these are real life friends. Residing in the UK makes this more possible than other parts of the world as our distances are nowhere near those of lets say, the States, where thousands of miles separate people and a quick cup of coffee is never going to be on the cards.
There is one friend, who knows who she is, that i would like to give a very special thank you too, i have spoken to her this evening in chat and mentioned to her that she has been an inspiration to me of late, without even knowing it and she asked me why. So good people, let me explain..

Her name is rose and never was there such a sweet and lovely lady as she. When first i encountered her in a chat room some three years ago i would guess, she was, like so many, searching for something that she felt was missing from her life... she had travelled down a few inroads within the lifestyle in the hope of finding that special something that she had almost convinced herself would complete her life... without much success but with plenty of heartache, but never giving up. She was not the sort to make her business a public forum so it was some time before i learnt that she was a married lady, and very happily too by all accounts, yet there she was, in chat, doing what so many did and continue to do, searching for that illusive "One".
i recall asking her one day, what she would do regarding her marriage, if she ever did find the Master of her dreams and she replied, she would cross that bridge when she came to it, that was after i had pointed out to her that to be in chat actively seeking a Dominant, was tantamount to cheating on her husband and was likely to cause her difficulties within her marriage. She acknowledge that to be fact and we left it at that.
Some time later, i learnt that rose had found the man of her dreams, she had opened her eyes and her heart and she had seen that what she was looking for, she already had and that her life and her love was with her husband, and having spoken at length to one another, they had realised that what they both needed, they had, in the palm of their hands all the time.
With a bit of learning on either part, their relationship has blossomed and it is now as firm and stable as any married Master/sub relationship that i know.
Once rose found what she was looking for, not once have i heard her moan, not once has she ever had cause to find fault or complaint with her lot, she has, after all, found her true happiness with "Her Man" as she calls him.
Don't get me wrong, i am sure there are imperfections in her life, just like the rest of us, but rose has a philosophy that a few more of us could do well to follow.... she see's that there are others, far far worse off than she will ever be, that there are those who would give anything to have what she has, that there are others that would jump at the chance to have only a tiny proportion of what makes up her day/week and she also see's now that her life, such as it is, is her perfection and as that is the case, then she has no reason to wish for more, or want more, she has, after all, got it all.
The point here is that we should all look at what we have and enjoy that to the fullest, rather than go searching for what we don't have and allow ourselves to chase a dream because we have convinced ourselves that the dream might be better than the reality. It wont be.

Be happy with what you have rather than unhappy with what you have not. Make the most of each and every day because life is to short to spend it in a constant search for something that is so illusive that the chances of finding it are slim and in the process you may well loose what you already have.

i have done my fair share of complaining about what i dont have, and in that complaining, i hurt myself and those around me that i love with all my heart, my Master and my children. But suddenly i realised that i have my dream, i have what i desire most in life, the rest is merely window dressings ..

What more could i want..really...!!