Head or Heart

i had occasion this week when for an instant the decision as to whether the head ruled or the Heart did, came to the fore. Matters not why this happened really, other than to say that it did and it set me thinking about the consequences of Head or Heart.

In various different circumstances whether the head rules or the heart does can have either good or bad results and it is all a matter of which one is the best for you at the time and if you wish to take a certain path.

In my case, MG decided which path i followed because that is what we do..He makes those kinds of choices for me, that's what M/s is really all about for the best part. The Dominant making a decision in the best interest of the sub/slave no matter if the sub/slave wishes to take another route. Sometimes MG will make a decision which he has decided is in my best interest but i "want" to go the other way, ie, my heart ruling rather than my head but within M/s i have given him the right to make those decisions for me and if He decides on the path his sub/slave should take, then so be it..

In some respects, the decision we all make could lead us down the wrong road but even so, the desire to follow that path, at that time makes it difficult to chose the other way. If there is no one else to make those choices, no one who can stand back and see the whole situation for what it is and make an unbiased choice, rather than one that is more of a want than a need, then that is where problems and difficulties arise.

As an example: The decision to go and meet someone who you have been talking to online. Over some period of time you might have built a relationship that you feel is worth continuing, you really want to meet this person, you convince yourself that you know them, that this is the obvious next step, that the joy, the excitement that this person creates in you every time you talk sends waves of pleasure through you and that there is no real reason why you shouldn't meet them (Heart ruling)
Yet, somewhere, deep down you have a twinge that really should cause you to step back and wait, to be patient, to allow time to pass and the "getting to know you" process to go further than it has at present. (Head ruling) The obvious safety issue are well know to us all and yet we become blinded by our wants and tend to forget or push aside what it is our head tells us is the best path. Its easy to become blinded by Heart, by desire, by the need to expand and ignore the obvious "head" ruling that under more normal basic life experience would tell you the way to go.

The expression that its easier to see more clearly if you stand on the outside looking in, is very true. Someone else might give you the benefit of that "looking in from the outside" view but at the end of the day as in all aspects of what we do as individuals, we can listen, we can all hear the advice, but it will always be our decision as to the path we chose and suffer whatever the consequences of that decision may be, good or bad.

Head or Heart.... we are mostly capable of making the right decision for ourselves until we become blinded by " want v's need" What we want, what we desire may not be the right path to follow but the want can sometimes be far more powerful and has a habit of painting the situation in a rose tinted colour allowing us to as good as pretend to ourselves that the way we want to go is in our best interest when if we are truly honest with ourselves, it isn't, but oh..the desire, the rose tint can blind us all.

What we should all be careful of tho is not to allow either way to become predominant, to not be able to view any situation from both sides and in doing so, be unable to see the bigger picture. Both ways will have some merit, the task is to view each, even analyse them both and come up with the right, best and proper path to follow. Pro's and con's..

For me, as slave to MG, i give up that ability to make the choice for myself in many things. i have trust that MG will make the right choice for me instead... always, in my best interest.