Saturday, November 05, 2005

Change is as good as a rest

It has often been asked if subs are made or if submission is taught, well i am not the best person to ask that question of as my instant reaction to the "training" theory is that i and my fellow subs and slaves are not dogs or horses so training doesn’t come into it, guide, of course, show us an alternative way of doing things that the Dom would prefer, of course but forget the idea that i can be trained like an animal cause although at times i might be a pussy cat, hell i have sharp claws as well.

My theory is that each of us has within us, desires/wants/needs... to give and receive love and attention cause believe it or not even a man, even a Dominant gives, its not all about the sub giving and the Dom taking, not if the D/s is being done properly. Follow your desires and you are likely to end up with a pretty good and satisfying relationship. D/s is an extension of a normal loving relationship where there is give and take, that both are needed to keep an even balance between the two parties and so that they compliment one another. Add to that the D/s factor of absolute trust and total commitment and you have the foundation of a solid unbreakable bond between two human beings. Does this make one partner better than the other, more able to live life in a proper manner, better equipped to face what the big bad world has to throw at them, i don’t think so. Master or sub/slave, i am sure both are quite capable of living life, making decisions etc, the difference is that a sub chooses not to have to do that and is more content to give that responsibility over to another.

We have to be careful tho, not to fall into a rut and end up in a comfort zone where it is so easy to just let each day pass by without us even noticing. Comfort zones are those place where it is easier to just sit back and accept what we have as happy, when what we really have is nothing short of boring existence because we are too lazy or too bored or just plain cant be bothered to alter things.

We all change, nothing ever stands still, over time we develop new ideas, new beginnings etc but whatever it is we do, time has a habit of moving on with or without our knowledge or permission, we have to be aware that it happens and try our best not to become complacent and let things ride or before any of us know it, we are in the cirle of round and round we go and wouldnt life be really boring, if it was always the same, (the film Ground Hog Day springs to mind, the same day over and over again with the predicted result every time). That’s not for me. Things have to move on, they have to progress to bigger and better, they have to evolve, however...

Seems like only yesterday that my kids were little. Now, i have two very nearly grown young ladies, problem with that is a) i want my lil babies back cause they were really cute when younger, b) if they are growing up, where does that put me.. in the "old" bracket, that’s where !

Seriously, i could say that with age comes experience and all that stuff about been there done that but what i really wanted to say was this...

If i had the chance to do it all over again, would i... not a chance, even the shite bits i am happy with and ill tell you why, because it all, down to the really crappiest bits have made me, who i am, and who i am has moulded my life to where it is right now.. with Him, with the man i love, with my Master, with my submission, with my life just as i would wish it to be.



I simply can't find the words for this post, my computer is still smoking from the fire of the passion in your wirting :))

Anonymous said...

A well thought through blog. But cleo, I'm always suspicious of people saying they wouldn't change anything. I feel its a way of shouting (without anyone hearing) that you are reflecting and wish you could change something. Yes the experience of life has its ups and downs, but with that knowledge comes just that 'experience' and if you could be retrospective surely we would use that experience and knowledge to change certain areas of our life. For instance if your young child fell of a bike without a safety helmet and suffered injuries, wouldn't you in retrospect (and time travel allowing) ensure that he always 'did' wear that protection. I agree although that unsuccessful areas of our life can actually lead us into success ( perhaps a failed marriage can indirectly lead you to a successful relationship) but wouldn't 'we' have prefered the first to be successful. Finally the humdrum of life, now theres a topic! How do you keep things alive? - answers on a post card please!

cleo said...

Reflection is, what we do when we look back, when we look over what was. It isnt changable so really there is no point in imagining what you might do if the chance to do it was there, it isnt... no point.
And my thoughts were of my own lifes happenings, not those of others that blend into my world. For myself i wish nothing more than what i have and you know that Phil, we have spent many many hours talking over this very topic.. Dreams and Realities, there is no time or need for Dreams when realities are all i want and needs
Thanks for your comments tho, always enlightening.

Anonymous said...

Thanks, cleo

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